Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct,in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12
One thing that I have learned while being on my own journey of living a pure life is that I can not do it alone, because there a lot of times where I have to lay my pride to the side and ask for help. There are people who I know no matter what time it is if I call them and tell them that I am struggling in the middle of the night they will get on the phone and talk with me. There are those who guide me through the journey by reminding me why I am doing this and what the benefits of it are. I have people who pray for me. I also have people who I lead. These are the kinds of people that every person traveling this way will need in order to stay on this oh so very small path. Here is the list broken down. Before we get into this journey these are the type of people you should be praying for to accompany you on your journey.
God, Jesus, the Spirit:
I mean I shouldn’t have to really go in depth on this one. We need all three. God established the standard for our own good. Jesus lived the standard and became our example. He also is able to relate to our hard moments, and when we slip his death and resurrection was the key to the forgiveness of God. The Spirit is the voice that guides you. The one that whispers to you “go the other way”, “flee”, ” God loves you”, “don’t do it”, “DON’T DO IT!”. Honestly we could really just stop here. We have the best group but God did not design us this way. He wants us to be in relationship with those around us!
“Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel:“I am the Lord your God, who teaches you to profit, who leads you in the way you should go.'” Isaiah 48:17 ESV
Your parents are an important piece. I do realize that not everyone’s parents are the most supportive, but from what I have always heard wether the relationship was rocky or was amazing there is something that we can always learn from them. Either how to do it the right way, or how not to do life. Ask them their experiences. Get wisdom from them. Growing up we like to believe that our parents know nothing about where we are in life.. well most of that is not true. Other than the new evolutions that pertain to issues they didn’t experience growing up like new technologies. They pretty much in some sense of their being has gone through everything you have and if they haven’t you can factor in your grandparents. Then they have you covered. Do not forsake the time that you get to spend with your parents because sadly it doesn’t always last long if it has been established at all. God graced them to be your provider, protector, lover of your being, cheerleader, discipliner, etc. while you are on this planet. Learn all you can while you can because when they are gone… they’re gone.
“Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck” Proverbs 1:8,9
Mentors are like second parents. They also have plenty of experiences that will help you along your purity walk. They give you a plan and help you follow through they also hold you accountable. Definitely pray for God to send you a mentor, even if you have parents that mentor you well. I have learned by experience that our parents can talk all day dropping golden nuggets left and right but sometimes we don’t hear them out because they are our parents. Just remember that when the mentor drops the same nugget you go back and thank your parents for being the first to tell you and that you just didn’t listen. I have to do that all the time (lol)
“Without counsel plans fail,but with many advisers they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22 ESV
I just love having brothers and sisters. IF no one will keep you accountable they most definitely will, especially if you all are still living at home. What you do sometimes affects them. They don’t want your problems so they most definitely will make sure that you stay on the right track. Siblings are the ones we look up to or the ones that we are trying to inspire. You can learn from each others mistakes, you can protect each other, you can laugh and cry together. When you struggle in the night they are the ones that you can call on!
“A friend loves at all times,and a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17 ESV
I am so blessed to have the friends that I do. You should find a group of friends that are moving in the same direction as you. These are your accountability partners that walk this life out with you. If you are trying to walk out a pure lifestyle then what you need are friends who are pursuing the same thing. I find it even better to have friends that with different spiritual giftings. One of my friends is a prayer warrior ( intercessor). In our 3 person group she prays for all of us, we pray for her as well but she is the one who usually covers our group. The other is an encourager,teacher,server… honestly I never knew someone could be real, hurt your feelings a little ( constructively), teach you a new perspective, encourage you and provide a top of the line meal at the same time. Her spiritual gift should be like, hurt your feeling and then get your life together over garlic mashed potatoes. I don’t even know an actual name for it. lol we all have giftings in faith. our friendship is so covenant that we pretty much go through the same things at the same time or right after the other. But we hold each other up in those times. That is the main reason why it is so important to have friendships. You would want to pray for this as well that God sends you the friends that can walk this life with you, because you will need them!
Proverbs 18:24 “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” ESV
I wrote mentee but it isn’t really the proper word.This is probably the most important aspect. This is what will really hold you accountable. When you have someone who you are mentoring. They look up to you and they watch every step that you make. I heard it once from my pastor that we are like a well. We get poured in so much but it doesn’t matter what we do we will become stagnant and start to stink if we do not pour out the things that have been poured into us. It is no use to learn all of the things in life and to keep it for ourselves. It doesn’t matter if someone else is teaching it as well, because their story is different than your story. This person does not have to necessarily be younger than you, maybe spiritually or developmentally, but age doesn’t really matter especially if God set it up. When you hold someone accountable for their life it ultimately makes you accountable for your own life. In these times our wold is hurting so much because we do not have many that are willing to step and to help each other learn something new. Especially spiritually.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5 ESV
There are those who may choose that Jesus is not for them, but that still does not mean that we don’t still need to be an example and though many may not choose to go on this walk with us they do still watch from the sides of the path. Some choose to walk the life eventually, but until then it is our job to be an example. To show them what living a pure lifestyle looks like and the pressures that are taken off of life by it. In all areas of our life we should remember that no matter where we go or what we do we should be an example, or be the light for all ( some of my readers are gonna like that part, shout out 5:15)
“‘You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.'” Matthew 5:14-16 ESV
I hope you noticed the image that our community. ( A cross if you didn’t get it) This is what the body of believers is all about. The cross to us is many things… in this case it is a symbol of accountability. We need each other.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV