What is love?

When someone says they love you or you think about what the word means to you what do you come up with? Love has so many definitions but it’s like why is love the biggest area that the ENTIRE world has trouble with. People believe that love comes in the form of complete and total abused submission or those that believe that it comes through pain, you have those that feel that love comes by the amount of materialistic items that you can give a person.. or the lack of items that you can possess. Some believe that it comes from control. Others may believe it can only be shown through sexual intercourse or in birthing a baby. We have messages that say ” Believe in love” and “love wins” but no one is really willing to embrace what that truly means.

I think ( yes this is my opinion) that people like the idea of “love” but no one really wants to actually have to act in love. The idea that love is just that warm feeling in my stomach when ever I see that certain person, or the warm fuzzies I get when I see a child learning how to walk for the first time. Everyone likes the nice side of love. The side of affection, but is this really love? We struggle with staying in love, we struggle with showing love to people after they have made us feel a certain way. We struggle with loving ourselves because media has totally ruined what that idea even means. We struggle with the idea of going beyond ourselves in spite of our own situations to extend a hand to help the next person who is worse off than we are. We want love to be conditional on our own terms.

We want love to be easy..well news flash many days it can be, most days it won’t be. Love is work. Now hear me out I am not saying that you have to work for love. You can work for respect but you should never have to work for love or make anyone else work for it. What I mean is to love someone takes an active effort on your end. “I still don’t get it Chelsee.”

Lets look at this verse then:

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance. Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

How many of those words are actually action words/phrases? Lets list them: patient,kind,rejoices when truth wins out, keeps no record, never gives up, never loses faith, always hopeful, endures, lasts forever! So that is 9 things that love does do. What about the things love does not do?

Lets list those: Not jealous, not boastful, not proud, not rude, does not demand its own way, not irritable, not rejoice about injustice. That is 7.

So total we have about 16 actions that relate to love, you have to take action to do these which means you have to apply a force to it which equals work. Reading in between the lines think about how hard it is to actually be patient, one, and then be patient with a person, while having to be kind to them, keeping record of no wrong of their offenses toward you,never giving up on them, always staying hopeful for them and enduring any present or future circumstance. Imagine having to do that when you are on your absolute last straw with someone….. and you have to do all of this without being jealous,boastful, proud, or rude. See, love is really no joke!

When people say they have fallen out of love I would not quite agree with that.. I would just say either one they got in a situation, without being truly committed and gave up on the work necessary, or they were in a situation they shouldn’t have been in and they are trying to keep together something that was not meant to stay together. That is work to for sure but that is negative work that wears you out really fast. Lust produces both of these situations.

So what is love? Love is action.Love is work.

We work to love others but we don’t make others (or ourselves) work for our love. Our world is good for making people work to “earn” love, but don’t be that person. Everyone qualifies for your love!

In two weeks I will be breaking down the 4 types of love. You won’t want to miss that one. Also check out the featured writers that I will be posting in the upcoming days. Note that I will probably post them a little fast because ( transparent moment) I am a little behind! If you could not tell. Anyway this month is going to be awesome! Let me pray for you.


Hey Daddy,

We are so excited that we get to put our love to the test. We know that you actively chase after us with your love. No matter what the situation is or how crazy we get or off track you continuously seek after us. Lord show us  how we can put our love into action. Remind us how much you gave for us to be reconnected to your love! As we go through our days let us remember the do’s, don’ts and never’s of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. God not one day have we had to work to earn your love, you did the work for us and then gave us grace and mercy. Let us remember that we don’t make people work for our love, we give it freely and we work diligently to show love to others! We love you for who you are and all that you are doing for us. In Jesus Name,Amen!


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